Men - victims of domestic violence

Every married man is a victim of domestic violence. Since verbal abuse, emotional abuse and mental cruelty is a form of domestic violence, men can reasonably prove that each and every married man is a victim of domestic violence.

How often are we nagged by our wife? Almost every single day.

The nagging of your wife is so incredibly powerful that you will do anything to avoid being on the receiving end. You will begin to obey all her instructions only to protect yourself from her nagging. Her words go cracking down your spine leaving you frustrated, depressed and helpless. You feel that by crying your wife will calm down but you are wrong. She will get more angry and when she proves her point making you accept her wrong notions, she will cry in front of others complaining about you. This is a very old-fashioned tactic but it still works wonders for women. First harass the husband, and when she is successful in bring him down to his knees, she will complain about him to others with tears in her eyes. Is this what they call domestic violence on women? It’s a shame that the society believes the lies of these women. It is easy to laugh on these harassed husbands and many do laugh on them. People prefer to support abusive wives posing as a victim but they will not support genuinely harassed husbands.   

Husbands are not reluctant to say that they fear their wife, and the society, instead of sympathizing, make them a laughing stock. The society treats harassed husbands as those lots who are not man enough, who can’t control their wives, and who will be their wife’s slave. Society finds it funny. If a harassed husband complains, he will be ridiculed and humiliated for being a victim in the hands of his wife. If the husband says that he has to first ask her wife before taking a decision, the society will ridicule him for not able to take a decision on his own. And when he does take the decision on his own, the same society will insult him for harassing and disrespecting his wife. The society is also responsible for making the lives of harassed husbands more miserable. Here, in the house, the wife is taking all the decisions and giving the ultimatum to his husband to keep his mouth shut, and other women are complaining of not been treated equally in the house in decision making. What a deception!!!  

Husbands are not free in their own house. The wife will always be watchful what her husband is doing or planning to do. She will inquire about everything, absolutely everything - from using a new shaving cream to his female colleague’s dress. She will ask trick questions to trap the husband to make him say that he looked at another woman, and then the husband will be punished for a week by boycotting him in the house. He will be dragged in discussing issues that are useless and trivial, and if the husband expresses his dislike to discuss on such issues, then again the wife will make him feel guilty of neglecting her, which will continue for weeks. In every situation, the husband is made to feel that he is always wrong and the wife is always right. The moment the husband comes home from office, the wife is mentally ready to show him who is the real boss in the house. She will ask him about the day making him feel that he is in safe hands, and then bang, the wife strikes him with a vicious blow of her taunts, criticizing his this habits, that habits, this attitude and that attitude. He is tired from work and he is subjected to such mental cruelty every day.  

If the husband happens to say something that has irritated the wife then she will make sure that the husband knows that he is now going to get a rough treatment. She will bang kitchen utensils, break glasses, she will throw things to make noise and she will steal the television remote control, go into her room and shut the door. At times she will even physically assault her husband with a slap or a kick on his groin. The husband can easily fight back and send her to hospital but he endures all pain silently. The husband knows that he has to kneel down and apologize even when it was not his fault. After all, the society has taught him to compromise with his abusive wife in all circumstances. The husband has to adjust himself with the extreme behaviour of his wife, her tantrums, vicious taunts, silent treatment and boycotting. Such cruel treatment on the husband on a daily basis is indeed a severe form of domestic violence. But the society has accepted that domestic violence on husband is part and parcel of married life for all men. Even if a man complains, there are plenty of people pretending to be wiser in marriage, advising him to tolerate it silently. “Its all life, you got to accept it,” they would say. And when a woman complains to the society, these same people would say, “don’t tolerate, go and complain to the police station.” This double standard of the society cannot be forgiven.

The life of a man gets ruined because his wife has murdered his individuality. His wife has strangulated his freedom of speech. His wife has tortured his independence. His wife has subjected him to mental cruelty to such an extent that in the husband’s heart of heart, he just wishes to die as soon as possible. He works all day to earn for his family, he lives like a slave in his house, and hear news that all men are wife-beaters. Deception of feminists is spreading far and wide. Feminists have no words for husband-beaters. A wife humiliates his husband saying that he failed to sexually satisfy her and she wants to satisfy herself from outside men. The husband is emotionally shattered to hear that but he knows he can’t stop her nor can he complain. The wife enjoys her sex life with other men and the husband continues to helplessly sponsor the life of this husband-beater. And if the husband is too tired to have sex, the wife will humiliate him for days calling him impotent. Such emotional abuse is considered funny by the society.

The society has never accepted the reality about how much love is there in the heart of the father for his children. The father’s sacrifice for his children is never recognized. The children will grow up being brainwashed by the mother thinking that their father is useless, stupid and deserve to be beaten up by their mother. The wife will never allow the father to talk to their children alone because she does not want the children to support their father. The children often turn against their fathers on one command of the wife. And if the father has two or three daughters than he accepts that he must have committed a lot of sin in some past births. His whole existences in the house will be humiliated and tortured by females in the house. In many cases, the wife persuades the daughter to file a false rape case on the father to teach him a lesson. The father’s life is ruined and spends the rest of his life in jail just because his wife thought this is what her husband deserves.  

What if men realize that they do have a ‘choice’? Since women who are husband-beaters are also posing as victims of domestic violence, then why would a man not complain against his abusive wife?

Each and every married man is a victim of domestic violence. He is a victim of nagging, emotional abuse, blackmail, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and mental cruelty. Are men going to continue treating this torture as part and parcel of their married life or will they seek justice and equality? Amazingly, many people are encouraging these harassed husbands to speak up against this cruelty but they seem to be so scared of their wife that they would probably remain a harassed husband in the hands of their abusive wife till they die. For now, those abusive wives are enjoying themselves torturing their husbands and also posing as a victim for the society to think that all husbands are wife-beaters. Who could be a bigger liar than these women?

10:56 AM - Saturday, February 17, 2007